The Family

I have been doing a tremendous amount of thinking about this, and I want to share it with you for a moment.

I believe the family is the root of a progressive and peaceful civilization.

The individual family, the core nuclear family, man and woman, husband and wife, committed to the raising of one or several children to be decent, well-balanced citizens, as well as preparing this child for spiritual growth with the knowledge of God, is our primary goal in this life.

Believe it or not, this is not a popular idea today, and to many, this is actually offensive, or deemed exclusive, the idea of family being the most important thing for society.

The reason is because so many people haven’t had such a family, and thus society is breaking down.

The family unit is the basic building block of society, and if this isn’t a shared reality then the very foundation of society becomes unstable, erratic, conflicted, contentious, alas, broken and fractured.

Look around you.

I recently penned an article called The Fall of Man in which I write the following:

Whether it is poverty, famine, bad leadership, or whatever ill faces the common man, hundreds of millions of people will die or will live miserably because the wrong things motivate our leaders.

Not until we are motivated by service, love and compassion will leadership lead to a more enlightened path; not until our families and our institutions promote true and moral leadership – all of which starts in the home – will things improve for the common human.

Everything starts in the home. If mankind can save the home we can save ourselves.

Society is in danger, we are going through an interesting period indeed.

People not having children, young people not getting married, these are signs of disintegration, not progress.

Without family, whole members of society have crumbled.

When we have government trying to raise family through ineffective welfare policies that reward idleness, we see what we are witnessing today

So now from 82 section 6 we get this summary on the importance of the male-female relationship, and then we will jump into the important of the home and family life

84:6.6 Men and women need each other in their morontial and spiritual as well as in their mortal careers. The differences in viewpoint between male and female persist even beyond the first life and throughout the local and superuniverse ascensions.

And even in Havona, the pilgrims who were once men and women will still be aiding each other in the Paradise ascent. Never, even in the Corps of the Finality, will the creature metamorphose so far as to obliterate the personality trends that humans call male and female; always will these two basic variations of humankind continue to intrigue, stimulate, encourage, and assist each other; always will they be mutually dependent on co-operation in the solution of perplexing universe problems and in the overcoming of manifold cosmic difficulties.

84:6.7 While the sexes never can hope fully to understand each other, they are effectively complementary, and though co-operation is often more or less personally antagonistic, it is capable of maintaining and reproducing society. Marriage is an institution designed to compose sex differences, meanwhile effecting the continuation of civilization and insuring the reproduction of the race.

84:6.8 Marriage is the mother of all human institutions, for it leads directly to home founding and home maintenance, which is the structural basis of society. The family is vitally linked to the mechanism of self-maintenance; it is the sole hope of race perpetuation under the mores of civilization, while at the same time it most effectively provides certain highly satisfactory forms of self-gratification. The family is man’s greatest purely human achievement, combining as it does the evolution of the biologic relations of male and female with the social relations of husband and wife.

and there is this…

As are the families of the race or nation, so is its society. If the families are good, the society is likewise good. The great cultural stability of the Jewish and of the Chinese peoples lies in the strength of their family groups.

The mores (religious, moral, and ethical), together with property, pride, and chivalry, stabilize the institutions of marriage and family. Whenever the mores fluctuate, there is fluctuation in the stability of the home-marriage institution.

84:7.27 In the present industrial and urban era the marriage institution is evolving along new economic lines. Family life has become more and more costly, while children, who used to be an asset, have become economic liabilities. But the security of civilization itself still rests on the growing willingness of one generation to invest in the welfare of the next and future generations. And any attempt to shift parental responsibility to state or church will prove suicidal to the welfare and advancement of civilization.

…and here is why:

84:7.28 Marriage, with children and consequent family life, is stimulative of the highest potentials in human nature and simultaneously provides the ideal avenue for the expression of these quickened attributes of mortal personality. The family provides for the biologic perpetuation of the human species. The home is the natural social arena wherein the ethics of blood brotherhood may be grasped by the growing children. The family is the fundamental unit of fraternity in which parents and children learn those lessons of patience, altruism, tolerance, and forbearance which are so essential to the realization of brotherhood among all men.

….even in the Papers where we learn of an advancing race of humans we learn…

72:3.4 These people regard the home as the basic institution of their civilization. It is expected that the most valuable part of a child’s education and character training will be secured from his parents and at home, and fathers devote almost as much attention to child culture as do mothers.

What is the greatest threat to us today, to our civilization? It is the breakdown of the family unit.

84:8.1 The great threat against family life is the menacing rising tide of self-gratification, the modern pleasure mania. The prime incentive to marriage used to be economic; sex attraction was secondary. Marriage, founded on self-maintenance, led to self-perpetuation and concomitantly provided one of the most desirable forms of self-gratification. 

Property accumulation is becoming an instrument for augmenting all forms of self-gratification, while marriage is often viewed only as a means of pleasure. And this overindulgence, this widely spread pleasure mania, now constitutes the greatest threat that has ever been leveled at the social evolutionary institution of family life, the home.

Man has well earned some of his present-day joys and pleasures. But look you well to the goal of destiny! Pleasures are indeed suicidal if they succeed in destroying property, which has become the institution of self-maintenance; and self-gratifications have indeed cost a fatal price if they bring about the collapse of marriage, the decadence of family life, and the destruction of the home—man’s supreme evolutionary acquirement and civilization’s only hope of survival.

…and then there is this notation from Paper 111, on the topic of soul development which occurs in the home, regarding the consequence of young people who may, when they become pre-ccupied with things instead of values become a threat to civilization…

111:4.3 The advances of true civilization are all born in this inner world of mankind. It is only the inner life that is truly creative. Civilization can hardly progress when the majority of the youth of any generation devote their interests and energies to the materialistic pursuits of the sensory or outer world.

111:4.4 The inner and the outer worlds have a different set of values. Any civilization is in jeopardy when three quarters of its youth enter materialistic professions and devote themselves to the pursuit of the sensory activities of the outer world. Civilization is in danger when youth neglect to interest themselves in ethics, sociology, eugenics, philosophy, the fine arts, religion, and cosmology.

84:8.7 [Presented by the Chief of Seraphim stationed on Urantia.]

2 thoughts on “The Family

  1. This is amazingly pertinent to us today!

    We would all be wise to heed the “warnings” written in the papers those many years ago…

    In this day/age of technology that we live (of instant sensory gratification and of isolation from other humans due to being “plugged in” continuously to this technology), we must be consciously determined to not lose important “skills” needed in society like how to communicate face to face with another human being (reading facial cues and body language as well as listening to voice intonation, etc.). We must be able to interact with one another selflessly (respecting one another’s property, respecting one another’s opinion, taking turns, sharing, etc.). We must strive to understand one another’s feelings (being empathetic, being sympathetic, being altruistic, etc.). These “skills” are ones learned and lived out in family life.

    When the family becomes “messed up”, society mirrors it.

    Thanks for your work Jim. I always enjoy it.

    Amy Weibel


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